Half full or half empty?
you ever thought what it would be like to live a completely
Some people already know, but many more are still searching
for ways to have it. We look at what we have and what we
don’t have, then, look for something to fill the
gap; and when we have it; we think we will be fulfilled.
Unfortunately the pleasure of having things
can be momentary and satisfaction fleeting.
For example think of something you really wanted to do
when you started windsurfing, say your first carve gybe
or loop. How great you felt when you got it, but then six
months later it was no longer important, because you had
other moves you were working on. Sometimes the satisfaction
of the process of reaching the goal is better than the
As long as we continue to look for ways to have a
fulfilling life, we are likely to be disappointed. Being
fulfilled is not something you possess; it’s
something you are.
But don’t think being fulfilled is simply feeling
good. It also exists when life is difficult or challenging.
(Two words that really describe windsurfing).In fact some
people say the times when they felt most fulfilled were
when life was a struggle. When they were doing what was
important to them, that they were passionate and committed
Some sailors fall off on every attempted move, over months
of practice, but still feel fulfilled. Some ruin their
windsurfing by thinking they will be happy only when they’ve
achieved the move, (busting a gut in the process). Better
to enjoy both the process and the achievement, gain fulfilment
through the learning; have a sense of inner peace and outer
struggle at the same time.
As for the question of half empty or half full…
Two salesmen go to China to sell windsurfing equipment.
After a few days the first salesman’s company receives
an email that says,
“Disaster, no one in China windsurfs. Coming back
At about the same time the company of the other receives
an email from their salesmen that says,
“Great news, no one in China windsurfs. Start production
It all depends on how you look at it!
Bernie Evans is a co-active coach and consultant,
who runs creative think tanks for leaders of organisations,
trains people in creative problem solving, and works
with individuals and teams, on how they can best improve
their performance and gain fulfilment.
Please email him your thoughts : firstname.lastname@example.org